It is a known issue, Cyber Bullying, but is it an issue that’s talked about enough?
What is Cyber Bullying?
Examples of cyberbullying include mean text messages or emails, rumors sent by email or posted on social networking sites, and embarrassing pictures, videos, websites, or fake profiles.
We hear it often with famous celebs, making fun of the “hater” Tweets and comments about maybe a missed high note in a music performance, falling from the steps of the Academy Awards, or any other embarrassing moments that the celebrity might have been “exposed” in doing.
And while it might not seem like our problem because it might appear to be happening only to the rich and famous, that couldn’t be furthest from the truth. It is happening every day, to ever day people. Not just celebs, not just high school students, but literally all across the web.
People think just because they can’t see the person’s actual face when they are typing the negative comment that it is okay to post rude things. Or to “troll”. They say the best way to defeat the trolls is to ignore them, to not feed them. They also say the best way to defeat the trolls is to call them out on it, and let them know negative comments don’t bother you because you’ve got thick skin being the BAMF that you are. Well bravo to you if it truly doesn’t bother you. I don’t let mean comments ruin my day, but sometimes I read them and think to myself ‘oh my gosh, how can they be so mean?’.
I see it all the time. Especially in the comments of news articles. When people get political, they tend to get nasty. Which is why I stay out of the politics arena. I hate conflicts and drama.
As far as solutions go, I don’t think banning social media sites, adding more monitors, or banning certain words is the solution. I think the best way we can fight the bullies back is to show them every day examples of what it means to be positive, encouraging, and inspiring. If we set the examples, and ignore the mean comments and support the positive ones, eventually…hopefully, the trolls will get bored.
But this post is a kuddos post to The Duff for calling it out how it was. It was just a short scene. The high school principal freaking out over a viral video because he was worried about retaliation. But he SHOULD have been worried. They played it as a joke, but they knew enough about the subject to know it was a real thing and right to worry about it.
I kind of wish they had a scene with a guidance councilor for the main character, who fell victim to a viral video prank, and asked how she was doing with it. Instead they had the character mull over it alone. Which sort of sends a bad message to teens. Because you should seek help if you have been bullied, cyber or in real life.
Anyway, I just was really impressed that the movie called out on it without making it sound like an after school special. I’m glad that Cyber Bullying is getting attention. Acknowledging the problem is the first step to stopping it.
And maybe the Trolls will finally realize that it’s way more cool to be positive than negative.
Now that will probably never happen. But hey, I’m an author. It’s my job to dream :)
Have you seen the Duff? What did you think?
Have you been Cyber Bullied before? How did that make you feel? Did you go back to that site or block the Trolls? Did you feed them? How did you handle it?
Share in the comments! I’d love to hear your thoughts!